I saw this on another e-mail list:

“What would you attempt if you knew you could not fail?”
Motivation wise, it was defined as deciding what you want, getting after it, and cutting yourself off from retreating.
So:
Debt-free?
Starting a new business(or improving an old one)?
Millionaire?
Healthy weight?
Education goals?

The year is more than half over. What can we accomplish in the 5 remaining months of 2013?

We had 25 here last night and a couple of weeks ago

it was warmer in Anchorage, Alaska than it was here! As to the answer to your question. You could let someone lease purchase your house, or rent it out (let a property manager handle it).

Even if you were behind in your payments – I am not sure BOA would let you do a short sale — they seem to be notorious for not working with people —- BUT — some new regulations are starting to go into place from the Make Homes Affordable plan — so that may soon change.

Next house

You will probably not be able to buy the next house for quite some time if you just walk away. I would at least rather fight my way through it and do a short sale. The bank will sell eventually for probably less than a short sale, which to me is stupid on the bank’s part because they could just take the short sale and make a few more dollars. I would assume the “walkers” might have to rent when they move, but anyone pulling up the credit report might think twice.

I was reading an article a while back about mortgage companies and the economy

They had a phrase called “jingle mail”. That’s where the homeowners simply mailed the house keys to the mortgage company and said “Here. It’s yours. We’re out of here.” The homeowners couldn’t sell it, couldn’t afford it, couldn’t refinance it, so they walked.
Now, I don’t recommend this. It’s against everything I believe and VLC believes, and I’m sure you believe. But it does happen. I have no idea the consequences, although I’m sure you have no credit rating afterwards!

While I was on the VLC (Florida) site looking for another answer

I found this post on one of the discussion boards:
“We own a home but would like to relocate to a different area. what are the consequences of letting our home fall into forclosure since its value has fallen beyond expectation?”

That piqued my curiousity. How DO you relocate if you can’t sell your existing house? At some point if I’m able to talk my dad into leaving Jacksonville, I want to move to someplace warm. But since my house is worth less than what I owe, I can’t get enough out of it. I certainly can’t afford a mortgage payment in Jacksonville, and rent in AZ or GA at the same time. And I’m sure the bank won’t take a short sale since I’m still making the payments for payday loans. So realistically, how would I handle that situation? Would I have to stop paying so they would be inclined to accept a short sale? Would I just be stuck in Michigan?

Its been awhile since we had a good Leon visit

not that he is ever a welcome guest. We had put hubby’s motorcycle in for a 250 repair that would save us more in the long run. It was only 247 in reality, we had put a 250 or call us authorization on it.
But hubby’s clutch went out while driving, luckily we were able to get off the highway & onto a side road before it went out completely.

But that’s gonna be abou 1617 in repairs we had not planned on. Since we used the auto repair money for the motorcycle, we have to use the BEF plus dig the other 617 out of other accounts.

But the good news is that there were no accidents involved, and we managed to cash flow ALL of it. In the past it would have been a credit card without even thinking about it.

Now this happened to the truck on Sat, hubby was out of the US for almost the entire month of July and had just gotten back on Fri…lol, great timing huh? And my mom had been visiting, we had taken turns paying but we had gone to the Space Needle, out to lunch a few times, out to supper once and to Crystal Mountain to ride the gondola. It was cash flowed instead of putting money into the sinking funds, but it was fun. An no guilt since its been forever since we did anything remotely like that.

I know we will be able to buckle down a little more and rebuilt the BEF and replace the other money soon.

I find I actually prefer my Saturday morning classes

AND there have been less attendance problems or dropouts in both. My last two have been Saturday mornings 10-Noon. And that’s when my next one will be as well.

My first class was a Thursday night, all other classes where Sunday afternoons at 1pm.

I’ve worked N/S for 26 years, so night classes really don’t work for me. The first one I actually took 4 hours of leave every Thursday night to facilitate the class. It was important enough to me to have the Church try the program that I agreed to the weeknight. Once we’d had a class and they saw how successful it actually was, I’ve been able to pick my days and times to suit me.

Makes sense, and I can’t fault you (or anyone else!) for that

You’re feeling that way is no different than me not hounding the people who miss a FPU class and/or drop out.

I truly believe that following the steps has to be a personal decision and desire. Therefore, if they miss a class, I’m not about to call and try to talk them into returning.

We can’t make others want what we think is best. We can only set the example and Live Like No One Else. 🙂

Just don’t get discouraged, ’cause there really ARE people watching and learning from your example. It just takes some people longer than others to act on it.

My mom had this book – Secret Life of a Dollar?

It showed what saving one dollar could do. They need to teach that in schools. And I continue to be amazed at the number of young people who don’t know what a 401K is.

Biggest funny today:
Bus driver told somebody he had to pay fare, he couldn’t just walk off.
Young person behind me yells “The money isn’t going into your pocket. Why you gotta be like that?”
Me (silently): You obviously don’t know much about where paychecks come from….

There is also a mind-set that is being taught to our kids –

that there isn’t anything else than car payments. My daughter had the assignment (in high school) to write up a budget for herself when getting out of college. She had to investigate what car payments would be for her chosen car. There were no lines for “life insurance” or “retirement”. There were lines for “going out on the weekend” and “clothes” and “entertainment”….

She got a bad grade because she refused to fill out the car payment line. (They wanted her to figure interest and so forth). She wrote down in her budget the price of a bus pass and a savings account for the said car. No interest needed there.. And no line for “student loan” either.

She also added lines which was apparently un-authorized. (Good girl!!) She wrote in “401K” and “life insurance” and “medical expenses”…

The teacher was extremely puzzled… She explained how much car payments really cost (ala Dave) and really confused him. And that she was not going to take out student loan because her parents are STILL kicking Sallie Mae out of the back bedroom. Sallie was not going to live in her house…

People do not realize what the actual cost of a dinner out is. It seems so small. Surely that money couldn’t put my kids through college? What’s the difference between paying a car payment to the dealer or to your savings account? They just don’t know the math…

How did your Saturday morning class go?

That was another thing we were trying to decide when we start our next class. It is so hard during the week because of getting kids homework, baths and stuff. And then my husband doesn’t get home until 6 or just a little after on most nights. So that was putting us starting each class at 6:30 if we do it during the week. The last class we had was on Sunday evenings from 4:30 to 6:30, but we really don’t want to do Sunday’s again. There is just too much going on.

I’ll agree with you here

but I’m guessing you missed what was the origal point, and that being, I no longer pass out TMMO books to people whom I clearly see need the information. I want to bang my head up against the wall at times, but as Eldred can attest to, it’s generally a waste of my (and his) money and time. If someone wants to know more, then I’ll share, but otherwise, I’m not going to expend the energy. I’m sick of hearing people driving new cars telling me that they’ll always have a car payment, or those that I know go out to dinner two or three times a week, telling me that they can’t afford to fund their children’s ESAs (this one makes me so angry I want to spit). What? Dinner out is more important that giving your children a paid for education? That’s what it comes down to plain and simply for those who feel entitled to dinner out all the time. This is my point in this discussion: I feel people are too lazy to change their lives for their betterment and find it easier to moan and groan about their circumstances when they have the means to actually do something.

You are definatly doing the debt repayment the hard way

You need to ignore the interest rates for now and just look at your balances. List all your debts smallest to largest. Pay minimums on everything but the littlest one. Throw everything you have at the little one and get it gone. Then move onto the next one on the list and throw all you have at that. As your pay off small debts your snowball (what you have to throw at it will grow and you will gain momentum.

ie.. MC mim. payment %25 Snowball $50… total payment is $75

WHen MC is paid off that $75 total is now added to the $25 min you were paying on your Visa. For a payment of $100.. .Then that is paid off the $100 is added to the Discover $50 minimum for a payment of $150 etc…

You will also want to really look at the budget and lifestyle choices and see if you can make some cuts that will increase what you have to throw at debt. It may mean selling some things, cutting out cable or smart phone plans etc… It may mean cutting your grocery budget to bare bones and eating more economical meals for a while.

It could also mean that someone in the home gets a part time 2nd job to throw the money at the debt (or perhaps to take care of that dental work that needs to be done so that you can do it without adding debt and still making headway on exhisting debt).

Again, pay things off smallest to largest (not including mortgage).

Once that is done focus on increaseing your retirement savings (seen a lot of folks loose pensions and companies decide to stop doing them, including my dh, so don’t count on it being there).

Then save up 3-6 months of living expenses… Then focus on college.

If all you can do is help a little, then help a little. We were only able to give our son a total of $20,000 for college. It wasn’t much but it was what we figured we could afford. Our greatest gift to our son is that we be debt free and have financial integrety going into retirement, so that he not have to worry about us being able to pay bills, keep heat on or pay for medications or doctor bills.

Then focus on paying off the house early.

This is what worked for us. We are now debt free with only a mortgage left. Paid cash for my car (used), The college funding is done, we save 15% into retirement accounts, Have a 4 month and growing emergency fund, are saving for things like attending our son’s wedding in the spring, rehearsal dinner etc… home repairs (new roof etc…) and a new to us paid for car (which we shouldn’t need for another 5 years or so. We also are paying extra towards principal to lower the term on our mortgage. It will be paid off before retirement.

We don’t make much. Dh answers phones working in customer service. I work retail for $9 an hour, averaging 30 hours a week.

My husband and I have only done 1 class so far

So it was a learning thing for us as well. I had this feeling that maybe I was not doing something right, you know? But those that completed the course told me that we did great and have thanked us. I have tried to keep up with everyone via a monthly check in email. Hoping that would keep people motivated, but I normally only have about 2 or 3 that will respond. We have mentioned to the church that we are waiting for the fall to start back up and if they took it last year that they might want to come back through to hear the updated info. So we will see.

As for the 10 week, I feel it will be really helpful. My church advisor was telling me that they had a lot of input on it from coordinators and most felt that 13 weeks was just too much. So I checked out the schedule and the classes that they will be watching at home are Credit Sharks in Suits (normally week 5), That’s Not Good Enough (normally week 8) and Of Mice and Mutual Funds (normally week 9). If people will actually watch the lesson at home, I think it will work well.

No the DR way definitely isn’t the easy way

And it WOULD be wonderful to see the same hope, aspirations and dreams from people who renounced debt. I think it’s up to US to be avenues that help bring that H/A and dreams to people by being an example. Whether we realize it or not, there ARE people watching us as we go through our journeys, there really ARE people who are paying attention. THAT is what’s important in addition to our own success.

Actually I don’t disagree with you at all

There ARE many people who are exactly what you describe below. They choose not to take the ‘hard’ road and make changes in their lives.

But I wouldn’t necessarily call them lazy or complaining….well let’s correct that, LOL! They CAN be complainers, but don’t have to be lazy.

It IS much easier to sit around and feel sorry for yourself, but do they actually do that, or do they just ‘act’ like they do that. 🙂

There are plenty of people who will never take responsibility for their actions, until or unless they are forced to by circumstances outside of their control.

Their choice….thankfully WE know better. 🙂

I’m going to respectfully disagree with you

People don’t want to change. They don’t want to cut out dinners once a week or take the time to use coupons and shop for sales. They really don’t want to change their lives. They still want to smoke their cigarettes or have a beer with their buddies after work. They don’t want to live on a budget. It’s not fun changing your life, and Lord knows it’s not always easy, that’s why people don’t follow through. They want a magic pill, they don’t want to hang in there and get an education and face the reality that their lives need to be evaluated. It’s easier to sit and feel sorry for yourself than it is to look for solutions to make necessary changes.